Slay, queen! You’re crushing it. Kill two birds with one stone. Kick ass, take names, nail your deadlines. — One of the most impactful books I’ve ever read was Nonviolent Communication by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg. The concept is surprisingly hard to summarize, but one example is replacing accusation-style language (yes, including popular phrases like “You made me feel…”) with “nonviolent” alternatives like, “During our conversation, I felt my need…

It’s common for people to begin disclosures about themselves by saying “This is a small thing, this isn’t a big deal.” I used to do it all the time. Why do any of us say that things aren’t a big deal? For what purpose? …

What we misunderstand about narcissists, mass shooters, and ourselves — There is a lot of misunderstanding around the term “self-centered.” Many bemoan that people are too self-centered these days. While I’d absolutely agree that communities are breaking down — to everyone’s detriment — self-centering is not the culprit. Many of us have internally demonized this word and idea without really…

Does your day planner reflect that? If not, these 3 tips make it easy. — Imagine if when you were a child, no one had ever taught you to bathe or shower. Perhaps it was something you did every once in a while, when someone else suggested it. …

I’ve often heard life coaches say their client’s transformation begins as soon as the client invests, even before the first call. While I can confirm this has been true for me as a client, I struggled to explain why. I finally have the words. When you first feel pulled to…

Six words have changed my life. These are the words I need to hear over and over again, learn and relearn. This is the message I’ve received from the most deeply helpful healers in my life (professional or not, paid or not). …

#2 is responsible for all my business milestones — The prerequisite for getting what you want, for making the dream in your head inevitable, is to choose it. Decide you are going to have the life you want, whatever it takes. I used to ask: “How could I just decide to have something? Do I really have that power…

Where can we find mental wellness to use for comparison? — Physical health problems are relatively easy to spot. We recognize symptoms of physical illness because we have seen healthy-looking bodies. I know when I am bleeding because I see bright red and my skin is punctured — a deviation from my normal unbroken skin. Mental health is a different story…

Boundaries and self-care didn’t work for me until I realized this — I’m sure you’ve heard that boundaries and self-care can systematically upgrade every part of your life until it sparkles. Perhaps you also know they can instead weigh you down with obligation over more things you “should” be doing. What makes the difference? I used to think boundaries and self-care were…